Divorce can be a complex process. The reality of the transition may not fully hit until your sitting across from your divorce lawyer for the first time. Whether you’re certain about moving forward with a divorce or simply exploring your options, being prepared will help you get the most out of your consultation. This first meeting is essential for discussing your rights, asking any immediate questions, and planning your next steps with clarity and confidence. But how do you prepare to step into the first meeting?

Clarify Goals & Voice Concerns

Before meeting with a divorce lawyer, take time to reflect on what you want to achieve. Every divorce is unique, and knowing your priorities helps your attorney tailor their strategy. If you have kids, what type of parenting plan do you want to establish? Are you hoping to mediate or consider a collaborative divorce? What outcome feels fair to you? It's okay if your goals and decisions change later on, but going in with an initial idea of how you want this transition to play out is a good first step.

Have Important Documents Prepared
Your divorce lawyer will need documentation to understand your financial and family situation. Collecting these in advance speeds up the process and allows for a more productive first meeting. Tax returns, bank statements, any titles or deeds, and prenuptial agreements are examples of documents that you should consider bringing with you to your first meeting, if you are able to.

Be Prepared to Discuss Relationship Details

Your lawyer may ask for an overview of your relationship and the issues leading to divorce. This helps them identify legal concerns, potential conflicts, and the likely path forward. This discussion may include major events that may influence decisions regarding custody or asset separation, any previous safety concerns such as domestic violence, the possibility of reconciliation, and how well you and your spouse have communicated. It's vital to be open and honest during this part of the process.

Be Prepared to Take Notes

A first meeting often includes a lot of information. Taking notes helps you remember timelines, steps you need to take, and important legal concepts. If you feel more comfortable bringing a trusted friend for support, many lawyers allow it—just ask ahead of time.

Remember to Stay Calm and Keep Your Mind Open

It's normal to be anxious, uncertain, and even frustrated when meeting with your divorce lawyer for the first time. Your divorce lawyer is there to guide you through the entire process and present options that you may not have previously considered. You don’t need all the answers or make every decision right away—just be ready to share your story and ask questions.